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It’s The Little Things [Day 28 - 30 Days to Changing Your Game]

This is Day 28 of 30 Days to Changing Your Game. Yesterday Michael Bungay Stanier got us doing A LOT more of what we love to do – yay! Today my dear friend Calvin Lee (probably the nicest guy on the internet) talks about how he became such a big deal on twitter and the little things you can use to raise your social media game to. Pay attention to Cal. Guy Kawaski sure does (I’m not kidding).

It’s The Little Things

By Calvin Lee (@mayhemstudios)

You’ve heard the old saying “Nice Guys Finish Last” It’s only true, if you believe it. I believed it most of my life. I was never full of confidence or believed in myself. Maybe being raised in a Asian family, where parents don’t express their love plays a big role of who you are and what you become. You can’t let that excuse hold you back. YOU decide what you want for your life and how you want to live it.

Believe it or not but Twitter was my Game Changer. Who would have thought I would go from an unknown in Twitterville to a success within three months, and ended up with 41K plus followers, year and a half later.

Twitter has really helped me break out of my shell; I’ve become a social butterfly and a better person. I discovered, I really enjoy helping and meeting people online and in IRL; conferences, Tweetups and meetups. Twitter also has great opportunities for networking and building existing relationships that started online, then into the real world.

I get asked often how I got so many followers, so fast. It’s not about how many followers you have but the connections you make and the value that you add. Like the line from the movie, “The Field of Dreams. “If You Build It, They Will Come.” If you add value, people will be drawn to you.

There is no secret to being a success on Twitter; it’s the little things that count. The same principles can be applied to your daily life as well.

A few things I did that changed my game and it can for you too.

1. Value – Sharing your knowledge, expertise and helping others with it, adds value. You will be the trusted person that everyone will go to.

2. Be Nice – Being nice is very easy to do and don’t expect anything in return. It doesn’t take much to show kindness, that kindness will be returned in full when you least expect it.

3. Community – Contributing and being part of a community; helps build relationships and trust. It will also give you the sense of belonging, like family. When in need, you can call on your community for support.

4. Share Your Life – Take a chance; Open up and share something about your life. People are more willing to do business with someone they know something about, builds trust.

Calvin Lee | Mayhem Studios

Calvin Lee is the principal & creative director of Mayhem Studios,  a small award-winning design studio located in Los Angeles; focused on developing identity and brand recognition for the business sector across the nation.

The Studio uses strategic and creative design with effective messages targeted to the client’s specific audiences to produce identity and branded collateral pieces; annual reports, brochures, logo design, advertising and interactive web sites.

Calvin also serves as a member of the Platt College Advisory Board for the Visual Communications Department, NO!SPEC Committee and on the Creative Latitude Management Team. When not working on projects, Calvin is busy writing articles for his blog.

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  • Anonymous

    Notes to the Tribe for Sunday:

    1. Today’s theme song is LoveCats by The cure: http://blip.fm/~kif3a

    2. If you missed my email about How My Game Is Changing (because of 30 Days), you can read it here: http://bit.ly/agrQ9P

    3. If you like a post please RT it to share it with your Twitter community. Thank you!!

    Love,
    Sarah

    P.S. Have you RSVP’d for your seat at the GameChangers Roundtable? Let me tell you, in addition to the official guests, the luminaries and VIPs who have reserved a seat in the “audience” are pretty HOT. Grab yours here: http://www.gamechangersroundtable.com

    • http://twitter.com/mayhemstudios Calvin Lee

      Sarah, Thank you for the opportunity to contribute to “30 Days to Changing Your Game.” I hope my story will inspire others. :)

      – Cal

  • http://twitter.com/mckra1g mckra1g

    This post reminds me of a fellow guest 30 Days blogger’s tweet earlier today: @drewmaniac posted: “Big doors swing on little hinges.” ~ W. Clement Stone.

    So many times, we allow ourselves to be overcome by affecting change because we think (I think, let’s quantify this), that change only comes from cataclysmically huge, sweeping gestures… when in fact, it’s concentrated, focused, incremental consistencies that do the trick.

    Accurate and impassioned slogging is the key. Thanks for the reminder! (BTW, slogging and blogging rhyme….hmmmmm).

    • http://twitter.com/mayhemstudios Calvin Lee

      I’m glad I was that reminder for you and hopefully for more people too.

  • http://ItStartsWith.Us Nate St. Pierre

    Calvin! So great to see you on here! You were one of the very first people I talked to on Twitter, and you helped me go from “total n00b” to “not-so-total n00b,” hahaha . . .

    I’m in your same boat – I was (and still pretty much am) a total introvert, and it’s hard to break out of my shell. But the relationships I began to form on Twitter quickly took me to phone calls, video chats (of which my first one was with you), real-life meetups, and eventually true friendships. I NEVER thought that would happen from simply jumping into the Twitter space, but it most certainly did – and I’m a better person for it.

    I’ve discovered the joy of helping others with no expectation of return (only to have it come back in full when I least expect it, as you said). I’ve shared more about my life than I ever thought I would in a public space, and it’s resulted in others sharing more with me AND WITH EACH OTHER, which is the goal of what I try to do online.

    Twitter has been the conduit to a ton of great relationships and opportunities for me to connect with others and help touch people’s lives. I want to thank you for your help, guidance, friendship and support when I first started. It meant a lot to me, and I want you to know that.

    Thanks, Calvin.

    • http://twitter.com/mayhemstudios Calvin Lee

      Welcome! I think there are a lot of people like us, introverts but also like help others. Many don’t take a chance by putting themselves out there or try to get to know others, because they are afraid of what people might think about them. It might be scary at first but, you get the hang of it.

      – Cal

  • http://www.accessabundance.com/ Teresa Romain

    Thanks so much for this message Calvin! It was what I needed to hear today – especially since I’ve made the commitment to myself (and someone who is holding me accountable) for being on Twitter and having made my first “Tweet” by this Friday. (Oops! Now I guess I’ve just made myself accountable to this entire tribe!) :-) I’ve been scared of twitter and for the past year-plus said “I will NEVER do Twitter…” :-)

    What gave me the most hope in your blog was that Twitter helped you develop relationships… I live in a rural area (which I love) near no major cities. I LOVE where I live but it makes it more challenging to network and meet people in person – very different from when I lived in a major city. I have suffered (as has my business) as a result… which is why I began to reconsider this whole “social media thing” just about a month ago. So – TWITTER here I come! Thanks!

    P.S. Any suggestions (beyond what you wrote) about how to get off on the “right foot” in Twitter? I’d love to hear from you or anyone else in this tribe!

    • Anonymous

      Teresa, once you dive in, you’ll love it! I only got onto Twitter about 3 months ago, and I spent the first month or so just “lurking” to try to figure it out. LOL So I am still a “newbie” myself. I had a few followers, and suddenly, that seems to have taken off. I don’t care about the number of followers I have, I care about WHO they are and what I can share with them (still new to that part, too).

      Like with anything online, there’s a lot of spammy stuff to sort through, but there is so much good stuff you can learn from people on Twitter, and there are fantastic people you will be able to interact with. I still don’t have my website or blog up (due to technical problems, not laziness or procrastination!), but I’ve already had people from Twitter interested in what I’m doing/starting.

      You will be amazed at how Twitter takes “Six Degrees of Separation” and cuts it down to almost nothing. Very strange, but fun.

      Let us know your Twitter name when you take the plunge so we can follow you!

    • http://www.anjwritesabout.com AnjWrites

      Hi Teresa- Like Lori, I’m fairly new to Twitter, but I found the most helpful things are simply starting with people you already ‘know’ and appreciate. Doing that seems to create a beautiful web effect – I discover new, wonderful teachers just when I need them (like @SarahRobinson!!) and other amazing people find me. You can easily disregard the spam-tastic crowd (they tend to stop following you if you don’t immediately follow them back) and use Twitter to widen your own circle. Can’t wait to see you there!!

    • http://www.accessabundance.com/ Teresa Romain

      Thanks Lori and Anj for your replies below. Just having made the commitment to be on Twitter by Friday (and then making it public here) is scaring the crap out of me… Here’s my fear. Once I sign up for Twitter and have my account, I’m afraid that I will become “inundated” with stuff I don’t know how to handle. Can I REALLY just kind of be invisible for awhile until I get the lay of the land and a feel for how it works? And… if you were to make a suggestion, what would be the first action you would have me take after I’ve set up my Twitter account? I think if I knew what to do after setting up my account or knew I’d have time to figure it out, I could breathe a little easier. :-)

    • http://twitter.com/mayhemstudios Calvin Lee

      Glad you’re taking your first steps. Just be YOU! If you’re genuine, people will see that. On Twitter there aren’t really any rules. Twitter is what you make it. What I’ve done is follow people with similar interests and jumping into those conversations. You can also have your own niche, mine is design but eventually branched out by tweeting about my other interests.

      Twitter is like any traditional networking and connecting. It can be scary at first and will take some time to build up your network and following. My final word is have FUN!

      – Cal

      • http://www.accessabundance.com/ Teresa Romain

        Thanks so much Calvin… sounds like I should focus more on “doing it REAL” than on “doing it RIGHT”!

  • Anonymous

    Calvin!
    Great post, thank you! I for one can attest to the fact that you have indeed come out of your shyness since we first met over a year ago. I know we often laugh about how we are each other’s first Twitter meet IRL, which in fact we are, but I cannot express enough, and I am thrilled to watch you grow and learn! Your humility and your willingness to always help others is why I adore and love you so much…as I’m sure, all who know you, feel the same!

    Keep up with your inner sexy and thanks for rocking our world by being wonderful you! Stay amazing, Cal! :~)

    • http://twitter.com/mayhemstudios Calvin Lee

      Thanks for all the support and being such a great friend. It seems like it was just yesterday that we met at the Chris Brogan event for the very first time. I’ve grown and learnt so much since then because of Twitter. It has helped me to open up more and take chances. I really enjoy interacting and meeting new people.

      I was at a party the other night with friends that know me from before Twitter. They were all saying how much I’ve changed, that I joke around a lot more and talkative. Yes, I do have those quiet moments too.

      I decided not to hide in the corner anymore and wait for people to come to me. I had to make it happen; mingle, interaction and take control. The payoff is well worth it. I’ve met so many people that I have become such good friends with online and IRL. If it wasn’t for Twitter, I wouldn’t have meet all these great friends.

      – Cal

  • http://justcreativedesign.com/ Jacob Cass

    Calvin is deff a man to follow and I can certainly agree with the “be nice” tip. Give and you shall receive. Thanks for the tips Calvin!

    • http://twitter.com/mayhemstudios Calvin Lee

      Thanks Jacob! You’re a awesome and giving person too. Always sharing your design process on design projects, helping fellow designers understand. You’re the real deal!

      – Cal

  • Anonymous

    You’re shy?

    Whatever.

    Every time we chat online I’m like “dude, can you stop yapping for a second so I can get out a thought?”. And I never do, Calvin Lee.

    I never do.

    But that’s OK. It’s why I like you.

    You bring the mayhem back to affordably-priced high-end graphic art studios.

    Great article.

    • http://twitter.com/mayhemstudios Calvin Lee

      You’re always so hilarious! I love reading your tweets and blog post roasting celebrities, tech, etc. You’re always dead on. Thanks for the support and being part of Twitter community.

      – Cal

  • http://www.ctkingston.com Christina Kingston

    Congratulations to Sarah for finding and reeling in such a wonderful group of people.

    Calvin Lee! I’ve been wanting to see you write a piece and here’s a great one you’ve written. Thank you for sharing and adding more background to the man we all adore, the @mayhemstudios. You offer helpful, constructive tips for newbies and the rest of us and are doing so in such a humble way.

    It’s been a pleasure to know you. I’ve had a great deal of fun meeting you as well as razzing you about your juicy fame, meanwhile absurdly claiming I have more fame than you do. You’re one of the most kindhearted, good natured men I know. Your generosity to help out others is surely a big reason why you’ve skyrocketed up the Twitter charts. It’s also your great humor that keeps the place jumpin’. One day you changed your avatar and all hell broke lose. People demanded you bring back the spiked hair. That may be silly, but it’s yet another testament to how much we’ve all gotten to like the you we know. Don’t change a thing Cal. I don’t mean, “never grow” because I know you’ll continue to do so, to grow… just um, well, keep the hair!

    Thanks for the honest read.

  • http://www.flurrycreations.com/theblog John Bergquist

    “It’s not about how many followers you have but the connections you make and the value that you add.” Perfectly said Calvin. I am very glad we met way back when. It has been a great ride. I am still bummed we did not get to meet up while we were running around CES but I know it will inevitably be soon. Keep it up man!
    @johnflurry

  • http://iamkhayyam.blogspot.com iamkhayyam

    Real proud of you Calvin!

    It’s been nice working up the ladder from almost the very get go with you. Nice guys finish last? Nah… we just tweet a lot :)

    Top notch!
    +1

  • Anonymous

    It really is the little things. When I started on twitter I loved reading your tweets because of all the great content you provided. I’ve really enjoyed watching your tweets evolve to include more personal anecdotes and a sense of play. Any twitter user, newbie or seasoned, can learn from watching you. You have created a wonderful community and I am proud to be a part of it.

  • Anonymous

    Calvin, this post isn’t only a bullseye, it’s like those guys who split the bullseye arrow with another arrow. This post not only reinforces the best ways to connect with others, but few people talk about the rewards that come with that. Increased confidence and reinforcement about being rewarded for being a positive person.
    For some reason, in the real world that’s how it *should* work, but I suspect there are many other people who have noticed the same thing you did about coming out of your shell by being a positive person in the virtual/social world.

    Keep up the good work!

  • Anonymous

    Hi Calvin: I completely understand where you’re coming from when you say that Twitter was your game changer. Twitter, along with this 30 Days program, has completely helped change my game, right at a time when I really needed it. And I love the 4 points you make, because in the short time I’ve been on Twitter (about 3 months), that is exactly what I’ve discovered.

    It seems to be a fairly easy way for those of us who have been more introverted to put ourselves out there and take risks that we might not otherwise have taken. For some strange reason, it just seems safer.

    One of the coolest things I’ve gotten involved with on Twitter are the chats. Wow- as @SandyGrason said, it’s like Twitter on speed! But they make you really think on your feet, and I’ve connected with some fabulous people in the past week by participating in them – connections that otherwise would either never have happened or would have taken a very long time.

    So I have met some absolutely amazing people through Twitter, and I’m happy to now add you to the list… if the comments here today are any indication, I’ve found another “winner.”

    Thanks for sharing your experiences with us!

    • http://sallyg.me Sally G.

      I’m certainly grateful for Twitter and Sarah for creating the space for us to meet Lori!

  • http://www.thehappyaccident.net Greg Pincus

    Yeah. What you said! I have learned so much about how to use Twitter (and have fun with it) by watching you. Every point you make is backed up by my own experiences, without question. And what’s great is that anyone can follow that advice and reap the rewards. I’m looking forward to watching your game continue to change… and to see you help so many others change their games, too.

  • http://sheristrykowski.com/ sheri strykowski

    It’s about your followers, not you. ~ Calvin Lee

    It’s good people like you, @AndySowards @Abduzeedo @Arbenting etc. (including @GuyKawasaki here) who I believe set the “tone” for the entire community. When I first joined Twitter as a writer who is learning design just for fun, I ran across this Layers magazine article:

    – To Tweet or Not To Tweet – 6/22/09 (see quote above)
    http://www.layersmagazine.com/social-media-twitter.html/3

    In it, you, Andy and other designers describe how you met new, interesting people, learned about social media and as a bonus, got more business than ever, by sharing relevant info and connecting with tweeps. Huge impact. And ditto here.

    Thanks again, Calvin. Have a fun Super Bowl Sunday, everyone!

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  • Anonymous

    I’m a relative newbie to Twitter, but it along with FB and this 30 days blog has really helped me see the advantages of using social media to build relationships. I never would have met the people in the Tribe here or those that Sarah has doing the posts without Twitter. I’m just starting to build who I’m following and my followers and I need to get it organized. I can see how it can become overwhelming! When I first started on FB and Twitter I didn’t get why people would be interested in anything I had to say, but I get it. They actually are (when you don’t write about every moment of your day.) Your tips are great and work whether you are on Twitter or talking to someone in person. Be honest, be nice, and don’t expect anything in return. It’s amazing the things that happen when you do that!

    • http://www.randomshelly.com/blog/ Shelly

      I felt the dame way and now I love being on Twitter and FB and reading a lot of the tweets and status updates… I try not to do the “I’m going to lunch now” tweets and updates! But I looked at the the lists I was on the other day and someone had put me on a wordy folk list! LOL – They said it was a good thing but I still laughed! :)

  • sarahrobinson

    Notes to the Tribe for Sunday:

    1. Today’s theme song is LoveCats by The cure: http://blip.fm/~kif3a

    2. If you missed my email about How My Game Is Changing (because of 30 Days), you can read it here: http://bit.ly/agrQ9P

    3. If you like a post please RT it to share it with your Twitter community. Thank you!!

    Love,
    Sarah

    P.S. Have you RSVP’d for your seat at the GameChangers Roundtable? Let me tell you, in addition to the official guests, the luminaries and VIPs who have reserved a seat in the “audience” are pretty HOT. Grab yours here: http://www.gamechangersroundtable.com

  • jen.

    Thank you for this, Calvin. I jumped into Twitter just over a month ago, and I’ve been sort of in hiding again the last week or so. It’s not that I don’t desperately want to join in, it’s just not having my direction set, worrying that I have nothing anyone wants. I’m in a transition period that seems to be taking eons – started with disability for major depression, morphed into mainly anxiety and the feeling that there is nothing special I can do, to unemployment with the dream of being an independent worker but really having very little clue where to start (background in illustration, design, marcom and documentation). People have been so supportive, but they sort of fade away (of course, I don’t expect them to be perpetually there just for me!) and so I hide because I don’t want to get known as the needy nothing.

    So I guess that’s a question I’m coming to – do you think one should be somewhat polished before getting too involved in social media? Is it putting the cart before the horse, playing before you get your homework done? Or can it be part of the evolution of the whole? Maybe I should start a website called What Do You Need Me to Be? and then I could field the answers…heh heh.

    I believe I have lived numbers 1 – 3 all my life, so this is my #4. Felt kind of burned by sharing my life in terms of employment the last year or so, but that should improve if I work for myself. Sorry that this is rambling; I keep almost deleting it again, but am going to take the #4 chance! Thank you for inspiring me to participate again…

    • Anonymous

      Hi Jen: I’ve only been on Twitter for about 3 months, and I pretty much stayed in hiding for the first month or so trying to get the hang of it. Probably the easiest thing I did was to start “retweeting” things that I found helpful/useful/interesting. That gave me a little bit of confidence to branch out from there. I’m still in what I consider my infancy so there are many others, especially people like Calvin, who will have a lot more suggestions. But people will start to thank you retweeing them, and it will grow from there. What is your twitter name? I’d love to follow you (I’m not so great at figuring out how to find people there unless they use their name and I know their name lol).

      • jen.

        Hey Lori! Thank you for your response (and thank you for wanting to follow me – great minds, I was looking you up!). I’m jenngbob and I just followed you so I should be easy to find. People do thank for retweeting, it’s true, although I was encouraged to post my own thoughts – which was great, until I was feeling pointless again and couldn’t think of anything original to post…getting used to public conversations is a bit of a challenge, I suppose, after years as a corporate cog. But so far all experiences have been good! And thank you – I am going to change my name here to my Twitter ID…edited to add I *was* going to change it, but if you hover over my pic do you see a Twitter button in the pulldown? Disqus is pretty darn cool; I think it gave me the option to do that.

    • http://www.accessabundance.com/ Teresa Romain

      Hey Jen!

      Thank you so much for sharing this… so much of what you wrote really echoed what I have not only wondered but have been trying to do, i.e., get everything all polished and perfect before I jump in. And – you’re already one step ahead of me… I haven’t yet jumped into the Twitter world. (That’s my commitment for this week.) I kind of like to know the lay of the land before I jump (one part for efficiency’s sake and the big part because I like to do things “right” and “look good”. So I’m so glad you spoke up (or “typed up”) and can’t wait to read Cal’s response.

      • jen.

        Hey Teresa! I want to chat with you, do get on Twitter! I felt (and still often do feel) just the same way about getting overwhelmed by all the tweeting. The lists feature is really helpful for me; I have many people on multiple lists but if I am in a mood for a certain kind of interaction, I can pare down my feed to just those I’ve chosen. I’ve also found twerpscan, tweetpsych, and analyzewords (each .com) interesting for looking at my followers and those I follow. And myself! I’m interested to hear about your business, too.

        • http://www.accessabundance.com/ Teresa Romain

          Hey Jen! I can’t tell if you meant your comment to comfort me or overwhelm me more! Half of what you wrote was like a foreign language to me (I mean, really – “twerpscan, tweetpsych”, etc.). LOL!

          I promise… somehow or other I will be on Twitter (even if I don’t have a clue after that) by Friday and feel a little safer (like you mentioned in a different comment) that I have found three supporters here who can help me get my feet wet (instead of drowning).

          • jen.

            LOL – I am so sorry, Teresa! I definitely meant to comfort! Really, there’s nothing to it other than signing up. Once you add a few interesting friends, it just flows from there. If you have any specific (or general) questions once you get there, I would be happy to try and help (and feel all valuable and stuff). :)

          • http://www.accessabundance.com/ Teresa Romain

            Thanks Jen! I just might take you up on your offer!

          • http://www.jessilicious.com Jess Webb

            Teresa, I’m new to the whole Twitter world as well, and am completely with you on feeling overwhelmed!!!! I’ve “played” with it before, but never got it and always gave up because of feeling overwhelmed. This time I’m coming at it from a different angle, not trying to use it for “business” but to really connect with people. And it’s STILL overwhelming, but I know it will come. :) Definitely look me up too once you are on at the end of the week! :) @TehJessW

      • http://sallyg.me Sally G.

        Good morning Teresa – I’m so glad you’re joining Twitter this week. Please look me up @Sally_G You have so much of value to share ~ coupled with your compassion and kindness for others – I have no doubt your Followers will grow in a way that may surprise you. Looking forward to the connection …

      • http://www.randomshelly.com/blog/ Shelly

        Let me know when you get on there! @randomshelly – I will help you out in any way that I can! :)

    • http://www.myrecipeforlife.com/ daniellemmiller

      Hi Jen:-)

      I read your post and wanted to share a smile with you…good for you for NOT deleting it (I often have my finger having over the delete key half a dozen times a day);-)

      I wanted to give you my take on the question you posed about being more “polished”. I think of twitter and FB as a cocktail party (you may have heard that analogy before) where everyone mingles and talks to each other…the piece that no one addresses is what if you’re NOT comfortable at a cocktail party? What if you’re the shy girl at the party who feels like a wallflower?

      I think we are always working on our polishing, it’s part of growing into our own special place. I’ve been on twitter for a pretty long time and I am by no means an expert, but I think if you start to interact with people YOU feel comfortable with (some of the tribe here for instance) you’ll start to see a path emerge that feels right for you. I can honestly tell you that I have and am continuing to cultivate amazing friendships and it is SO incredible.

      Hoping we can connect on twitter;-)

      • jen.

        Danielle, how sweet! Thank you! Wow, here I’ve collected three new friends and I am SO not the girl who’s comfortable at the cocktail party (I guess if I think about it, I usually try to get out of myself and make someone else feel comfortable, having given up on even wanting to be one of the “cool kids.”)!

        Thank you very much for the encouragement. It’s true, whenever I have started interacting with someone, it’s exciting and I feel I’m growing. The trouble begins when I start thinking how wonderful and accomplished these people are who actually bother to talk to me, and then spiral on into “what is my point anyway?!” I know that it truly must be as you say, that the path will become clear if I just keep showing up. So I will do it! Off to follow you on Twitter now… :) Cheers!

        • http://www.jessilicious.com Jess Webb

          I’m definitely not the comfortable one at the cocktail party either! LOL. Am following you on Twitter now, Jen, and looking forward to getting to know you! :)

          • jen.

            Jess, you are amazing! I’ve just bookmarked your blog (in 3 places, you are THAT inspiring!) and am off to Twitter to dig on your Jessaliciousness. Thank you for reaching out to me! :)

          • http://www.jessilicious.com Jess Webb

            You’re welcome – and thank YOU for connecting as well! :)

    • http://sallyg.me Sally G.

      Good morning Jen! I’ve been out of town for awhile and am just re-integrating into Life. Sorry for the delay in reading your comment. Like you, I have no clear ‘business’ or ‘sell’ at the moment ~ I hope to share my gifts and abilities as a service at some point this year … but am still in the planning phases. I actively participated in Twitter just a few months ago – and am finding great pleasure in connecting with people as an encourager, supporter, motivator, or to just let them know that someone has read their tweet or gets where they’re coming from. So, I guess I’m just serving as a Friend right now.

      With Twitter (as with all things in life, I guess) – BEing your Self is the attractive energy that will ensure those who need you, will find you. And perhaps those who you need will find you too. I’m still learning new things about the basics of effective Twitter participation (for instance, to see comments people who I wasn’t yet following sent me – I had to go to the @Sally_G page. I was simultaneously thrilled and embarrassed to discover that a month or so into my adventure!). I’ll always help any way I can – please don’t be afraid to ask … Sally.

  • http://www.bkmacdaddy.com/ Brian McDaniel

    Calvin,

    I haven’t conversed with you all that much via Twitter (yet) but what little convo we’ve shared I know rings true with the points you’ve presented in this post. I also know that they have ‘worked’ for me as well. I think the bottom line on Twitter and other social media is to be yourself. For people who are, by nature, jerks and self-absorbed, they will not reap all of the immeasurable benefits of joining and sharing in the awesome online communities. But for those who discover the joy of giving and can’t do it enough, the rewards are infinite.

    You are a natural. And your nature is kindness and selflessness. Thus you are a force of goodness without even trying. Who wouldn’t be drawn to that?!?

    Kudos to you, my friend. Thanks for sharing.

  • http://wordsdonewrite.blogspot.com/ Amber Avines

    Calvin,

    Your four points hit the nail right on the head. Even better, you fully illustrate each point on a daily basis!

    Thank you for being one of the true good guys in the Wild West of Twitter. You can always be counted on to be a kind and giving presence online or IRL, you provide great info, and you add more to the community than you take. When I think about what’s right with Twitter; I think @mayhemstudios!

  • http://twitter.com/mckra1g mckra1g

    This post reminds me of a fellow guest 30 Days blogger's tweet earlier today: @drewmaniac posted: “Big doors swing on little hinges.” ~ W. Clement Stone.

    So many times, we allow ourselves to be overcome by affecting change because we think (I think, let's quantify this), that change only comes from cataclysmically huge, sweeping gestures… when in fact, it's concentrated, focused, incremental consistencies that do the trick.

    Accurate and impassioned slogging is the key. Thanks for the reminder! (BTW, slogging and blogging rhyme….hmmmmm).

  • http://ItStartsWith.Us Nate St. Pierre

    Calvin! So great to see you on here! You were one of the very first people I talked to on Twitter, and you helped me go from “total n00b” to “not-so-total n00b,” hahaha . . .

    I'm in your same boat – I was (and still pretty much am) a total introvert, and it's hard to break out of my shell. But the relationships I began to form on Twitter quickly took me to phone calls, video chats (of which my first one was with you), real-life meetups, and eventually true friendships. I NEVER thought that would happen from simply jumping into the Twitter space, but it most certainly did – and I'm a better person for it.

    I've discovered the joy of helping others with no expectation of return (only to have it come back in full when I least expect it, as you said). I've shared more about my life than I ever thought I would in a public space, and it's resulted in others sharing more with me AND WITH EACH OTHER, which is the goal of what I try to do online.

    Twitter has been the conduit to a ton of great relationships and opportunities for me to connect with others and help touch people's lives. I want to thank you for your help, guidance, friendship and support when I first started. It meant a lot to me, and I want you to know that.

    Thanks, Calvin.

  • http://www.anjwritesabout.com AnjWrites

    Awesome post, Calvin!!! You just confirmed all things I have found most important about Twitter (and social media generally) – and from the others comments here, I can see that I have YOU to thank for keeping things real and kind as it’s grown!

    Cheers!

    @1writergrrl

  • Anonymous

    Calvin
    I enthusiastically agree that community is essential. Gearing my game up a notch means partnering with more people. And the only route to success for anyone is sharing success throughout.

  • http://www.accessabundance.com/ Teresa Romain

    Thanks so much for this message Calvin! It was what I needed to hear today – especially since I've made the commitment to myself (and someone who is holding me accountable) for being on Twitter and having made my first “Tweet” by this Friday. (Oops! Now I guess I've just made myself accountable to this entire tribe!) :-) I've been scared of twitter and for the past year-plus said “I will NEVER do Twitter…” :-)

    What gave me the most hope in your blog was that Twitter helped you develop relationships… I live in a rural area (which I love) near no major cities. I LOVE where I live but it makes it more challenging to network and meet people in person – very different from when I lived in a major city. I have suffered (as has my business) as a result… which is why I began to reconsider this whole “social media thing” just about a month ago. So – TWITTER here I come! Thanks!

    P.S. Any suggestions (beyond what you wrote) about how to get off on the “right foot” in Twitter? I'd love to hear from you or anyone else in this tribe!

  • henie

    Calvin!
    Great post, thank you! I for one can attest to the fact that you have indeed come out of your shyness since we first met over a year ago. I know we often laugh about how we are each other's first Twitter meet IRL, which in fact we are, but I cannot express enough, and I am thrilled to watch you grow and learn! Your humility and your willingness to always help others is why I adore and love you so much…as I'm sure, all who know you, feel the same!

    Keep up with your inner sexy and thanks for rocking our world by being wonderful you! Stay amazing, Cal! :~)

  • http://justcreativedesign.com/ Jacob Cass

    Calvin is deff a man to follow and I can certainly agree with the “be nice” tip. Give and you shall receive. Thanks for the tips Calvin!

  • tremendousnews

    You're shy?

    Whatever.

    Every time we chat online I'm like “dude, can you stop yapping for a second so I can get out a thought?”. And I never do, Calvin Lee.

    I never do.

    But that's OK. It's why I like you.

    You bring the mayhem back to affordably-priced high-end graphic art studios.

    Great article.

  • http://www.ctkingston.com Ct Kingston

    Congratulations to Sarah for finding and reeling in such a wonderful group of people.

    Calvin Lee! I've been wanting to see you write a piece and here's a great one you've written. Thank you for sharing and adding more background to the man we all adore, the @mayhemstudios. You offer helpful, constructive tips for newbies and the rest of us and are doing so in such a humble way.

    It's been a pleasure to know you. I've had a great deal of fun meeting you as well as razzing you about your juicy fame, meanwhile absurdly claiming I have more fame than you do. You're one of the most kindhearted, good natured men I know. Your generosity to help out others is surely a big reason why you've skyrocketed up the Twitter charts. It's also your great humor that keeps the place jumpin'. One day you changed your avatar and all hell broke lose. People demanded you bring back the spiked hair. That may be silly, but it's yet another testament to how much we've all gotten to like the you we know. Don't change a thing Cal. I don't mean, “never grow” because I know you'll continue to do so, to grow… just um, well, keep the hair!

    Thanks for the honest read.

  • http://www.flurrycreations.com/theblog John Bergquist

    “It’s not about how many followers you have but the connections you make and the value that you add.” Perfectly said Calvin. I am very glad we met way back when. It has been a great ride. I am still bummed we did not get to meet up while we were running around CES but I know it will inevitably be soon. Keep it up man!
    @johnflurry

  • http://iamkhayyam.blogspot.com iamkhayyam

    Real proud of you Calvin!

    It's been nice working up the ladder from almost the very get go with you. Nice guys finish last? Nah… we just tweet a lot :)

    Top notch!
    +1

  • jeffrago

    It really is the little things. When I started on twitter I loved reading your tweets because of all the great content you provided. I've really enjoyed watching your tweets evolve to include more personal anecdotes and a sense of play. Any twitter user, newbie or seasoned, can learn from watching you. You have created a wonderful community and I am proud to be a part of it.

  • lorilatimer

    Teresa, once you dive in, you'll love it! I only got onto Twitter about 3 months ago, and I spent the first month or so just “lurking” to try to figure it out. LOL So I am still a “newbie” myself. I had a few followers, and suddenly, that seems to have taken off. I don't care about the number of followers I have, I care about WHO they are and what I can share with them (still new to that part, too).

    Like with anything online, there's a lot of spammy stuff to sort through, but there is so much good stuff you can learn from people on Twitter, and there are fantastic people you will be able to interact with. I still don't have my website or blog up (due to technical problems, not laziness or procrastination!), but I've already had people from Twitter interested in what I'm doing/starting.

    You will be amazed at how Twitter takes “Six Degrees of Separation” and cuts it down to almost nothing. Very strange, but fun.

    Let us know your Twitter name when you take the plunge so we can follow you!

  • rickbakas

    Calvin, this post isn't only a bullseye, it's like those guys who split the bullseye arrow with another arrow. This post not only reinforces the best ways to connect with others, but few people talk about the rewards that come with that. Increased confidence and reinforcement about being rewarded for being a positive person.
    For some reason, in the real world that's how it *should* work, but I suspect there are many other people who have noticed the same thing you did about coming out of your shell by being a positive person in the virtual/social world.

    Keep up the good work!

  • lorilatimer

    Hi Calvin: I completely understand where you're coming from when you say that Twitter was your game changer. Twitter, along with this 30 Days program, has completely helped change my game, right at a time when I really needed it. And I love the 4 points you make, because in the short time I've been on Twitter (about 3 months), that is exactly what I've discovered.

    It seems to be a fairly easy way for those of us who have been more introverted to put ourselves out there and take risks that we might not otherwise have taken. For some strange reason, it just seems safer.

    One of the coolest things I've gotten involved with on Twitter are the chats. Wow- as @SandyGrason said, it's like Twitter on speed! But they make you really think on your feet, and I've connected with some fabulous people in the past week by participating in them – connections that otherwise would either never have happened or would have taken a very long time.

    So I have met some absolutely amazing people through Twitter, and I'm happy to now add you to the list… if the comments here today are any indication, I've found another “winner.”

    Thanks for sharing your experiences with us!

  • http://www.thehappyaccident.net Greg Pincus

    Yeah. What you said! I have learned so much about how to use Twitter (and have fun with it) by watching you. Every point you make is backed up by my own experiences, without question. And what's great is that anyone can follow that advice and reap the rewards. I'm looking forward to watching your game continue to change… and to see you help so many others change their games, too.

  • http://sheristrykowski.com/ sheri strykowski

    It’s about your followers, not you. ~ Calvin Lee

    It's good people like you, @AndySowards @Abduzeedo @Arbenting etc. (including @GuyKawasaki here) who I believe set the “tone” for the entire community. When I first joined Twitter as a writer who is learning design just for fun, I ran across this Layers magazine article:

    – To Tweet or Not To Tweet – 6/22/09 (see quote above)
    http://www.layersmagazine.com/social-media-twit

    In it, you, Andy and other designers describe how you met new, interesting people, learned about social media and as a bonus, got more business than ever, by sharing relevant info and connecting with tweeps. Huge impact. And ditto here.

    Thanks again, Calvin. Have a fun Super Bowl Sunday, everyone!

  • http://andysowards.com/ andysowards

    Calvin, I am so proud of you dude!

    You have truly come a long way, and done some amazing things with Twitter.

    I remember you were my first true twitter bud back in the day when we had both gotten started! You have always stayed true to your friends, and engaged with everyone, and that speaks volumes of your character.

    You consistently bring value to Twitter, and you have truly changed the face of Twitter, and many peoples lives that you have touched, forever.

    I just know you are going to knock 2010 out of the park without a doubt. You deserve it brotha, I couldn’t be happier for you!!

    Thanks for everything that you share with us on a daily basis on Twitter, and thanks for being an awesome friend!

    Rock on Brotha! #kaboom

  • http://themarketingmark.blogspot.com MarkSherrick

    Despite your use of foursquare, you do have a point. If you provide good content that isn’t just retweets, people will find you. Many of the people that I follow also follow you, and it’s not an accident.

    Sarah thinks we are similar people away from Twitter – now I just need to work on being more like you ON twitter as well. I need moe original content for that for sure.

  • StephanieCorum

    I'm a relative newbie to Twitter, but it along with FB and this 30 days blog has really helped me see the advantages of using social media to build relationships. I never would have met the people in the Tribe here or those that Sarah has doing the posts without Twitter. I'm just starting to build who I'm following and my followers and I need to get it organized. I can see how it can become overwhelming! When I first started on FB and Twitter I didn't get why people would be interested in anything I had to say, but I get it. They actually are (when you don't write about every moment of your day.) Your tips are great and work whether you are on Twitter or talking to someone in person. Be honest, be nice, and don't expect anything in return. It's amazing the things that happen when you do that!

  • jen.

    Thank you for this, Calvin. I jumped into Twitter just over a month ago, and I've been sort of in hiding again the last week or so. It's not that I don't desperately want to join in, it's just not having my direction set, worrying that I have nothing anyone wants. I'm in a transition period that seems to be taking eons – started with disability for major depression, morphed into mainly anxiety and the feeling that there is nothing special I can do, to unemployment with the dream of being an independent worker but really having very little clue where to start (background in illustration, design, marcom and documentation). People have been so supportive, but they sort of fade away (of course, I don't expect them to be perpetually there just for me!) and so I hide because I don't want to get known as the needy nothing.

    So I guess that's a question I'm coming to – do you think one should be somewhat polished before getting too involved in social media? Is it putting the cart before the horse, playing before you get your homework done? Or can it be part of the evolution of the whole? Maybe I should start a website called What Do You Need Me to Be? and then I could field the answers…heh heh.

    I believe I have lived numbers 1 – 3 all my life, so this is my #4. Felt kind of burned by sharing my life in terms of employment the last year or so, but that should improve if I work for myself. Sorry that this is rambling; I keep almost deleting it again, but am going to take the #4 chance! Thank you for inspiring me to participate again…

  • http://www.bkmacdaddy.com/ Brian McDaniel

    Calvin,

    I haven't conversed with you all that much via Twitter (yet) but what little convo we've shared I know rings true with the points you've presented in this post. I also know that they have 'worked' for me as well. I think the bottom line on Twitter and other social media is to be yourself. For people who are, by nature, jerks and self-absorbed, they will not reap all of the immeasurable benefits of joining and sharing in the awesome online communities. But for those who discover the joy of giving and can't do it enough, the rewards are infinite.

    You are a natural. And your nature is kindness and selflessness. Thus you are a force of goodness without even trying. Who wouldn't be drawn to that?!?

    Kudos to you, my friend. Thanks for sharing.

  • http://wordsdonewrite.blogspot.com/ Amber Avines

    Calvin,

    Your four points hit the nail right on the head. Even better, you fully illustrate each point on a daily basis!

    Thank you for being one of the true good guys in the Wild West of Twitter. You can always be counted on to be a kind and giving presence online or IRL, you provide great info, and you add more to the community than you take. When I think about what's right with Twitter; I think @mayhemstudios!

  • http://megustacooking.com/ cyuskoff

    Nicely done, Cal. Next step is speaking engagements, right!? You can do it! : D

  • Writergrrl

    Hi Teresa- Like Lori, I'm fairly new to Twitter, but I found the most helpful things are simply starting with people you already 'know' and appreciate. Doing that seems to create a beautiful web effect – I discover new, wonderful teachers just when I need them (like @SarahRobinson!!) and other amazing people find me. You can easily disregard the spam-tastic crowd (they tend to stop following you if you don't immediately follow them back) and use Twitter to widen your own circle. Can't wait to see you there!!

  • Writergrrl

    Awesome post, Calvin!!! You just confirmed all things I have found most important about Twitter (and social media generally) – and from the others comments here, I can see that I have YOU to thank for keeping things real and kind as it's grown!

    Cheers!

    @1writergrrl

  • michaelleiter

    Calvin
    I enthusiastically agree that community is essential. Gearing my game up a notch means partnering with more people. And the only route to success for anyone is sharing success throughout.

  • http://www.bighdesign.com/ Justin Moore-Brown

    Fantastic tips Calvin! Love the fact that your tips show reinforce your views of making genuine connections.

    Thanks to both you and Sarah for sharing these wonderful insights!

  • Anonymous

    Great post Calvin, thank you.

  • lorilatimer

    Hi Jen: I've only been on Twitter for about 3 months, and I pretty much stayed in hiding for the first month or so trying to get the hang of it. Probably the easiest thing I did was to start “retweeting” things that I found helpful/useful/interesting. That gave me a little bit of confidence to branch out from there. I'm still in what I consider my infancy so there are many others, especially people like Calvin, who will have a lot more suggestions. But people will start to thank you retweeing them, and it will grow from there. What is your twitter name? I'd love to follow you (I'm not so great at figuring out how to find people there unless they use their name and I know their name lol).

  • http://www.accessabundance.com/ Teresa Romain

    Hey Jen!

    Thank you so much for sharing this… so much of what you wrote really echoed what I have not only wondered but have been trying to do, i.e., get everything all polished and perfect before I jump in. And – you're already one step ahead of me… I haven't yet jumped into the Twitter world. (That's my commitment for this week.) I kind of like to know the lay of the land before I jump (one part for efficiency's sake and the big part because I like to do things “right” and “look good”. So I'm so glad you spoke up (or “typed up”) and can't wait to read Cal's response.

  • http://www.accessabundance.com/ Teresa Romain

    Thanks Lori and Anj for your replies below. Just having made the commitment to be on Twitter by Friday (and then making it public here) is scaring the crap out of me… Here's my fear. Once I sign up for Twitter and have my account, I'm afraid that I will become “inundated” with stuff I don't know how to handle. Can I REALLY just kind of be invisible for awhile until I get the lay of the land and a feel for how it works? And… if you were to make a suggestion, what would be the first action you would have me take after I've set up my Twitter account? I think if I knew what to do after setting up my account or knew I'd have time to figure it out, I could breathe a little easier. :-)

  • jen.

    Hey Lori! Thank you for your response (and thank you for wanting to follow me – great minds, I was looking you up!). I'm jenngbob and I just followed you so I should be easy to find. People do thank for retweeting, it's true, although I was encouraged to post my own thoughts – which was great, until I was feeling pointless again and couldn't think of anything original to post…getting used to public conversations is a bit of a challenge, I suppose, after years as a corporate cog. But so far all experiences have been good! And thank you – I am going to change my name here to my Twitter ID…

  • http://www.muellerandrew.com andrewmueller

    Calvin,

    It takes a lot of courage to open up, be vulnerable, and share as you did in this post. You are spot on with the advice to give, simple truths that yield great benefits. It is clear that you live by the insights you shared here. Being kind, generous, and genuine goes a long way on Twitter as it does in life. Nice guys, no matter where they finish, finish feeling good about who they are. Proud to call you my friend!

    Andrew

  • jen.

    Hey Teresa! I want to chat with you, do get on Twitter! I felt (and still often do feel) just the same way about getting overwhelmed by all the tweeting. The lists feature is really helpful for me; I have many people on multiple lists but if I am in a mood for a certain kind of interaction, I can pare down my feed to just those I've chosen. I've also found twerpscan, tweetpsych, and analyzewords (each .com) interesting for looking at my followers and those I follow. And myself! I'm interested to hear about your business, too.

  • http://twitter.com/staceysoleil Stacey Soleil ☀

    Calvin, you are indeed a genuine and rare type amongst the famed Twitteratti. I appreciate and adore you more than you even realize…AND to think we met on Twitter FIRST, and now we are IRL buddies that hang out ALL THE TIME. Great article, thanks for sharing and for just being YOU! -xo

  • Anonymous

    So what can I say? What a wonderful piece Cal. It is great to see you here – and yes, I can be one of the first to say that lal within this article is really YOU. You are humble, honest, direct, helpful – and all around a wonderful person. IT is meaningless to have relationships – even business relationships with people unless you can know them – REALLY know them! I have watched you really grow with your multiple “posse’s” — and seen you move from tweeting to tweeting and then engaging. Isn’t it fun? You are a dear friend Cal – and I am so lucky to have met you. I hope you learn as much from me — as I have from you.
    Beth

  • http://andysowards.com/ andysowards

    Calvin, I am so proud of you dude!

    You have truly come a long way, and done some amazing things with Twitter.

    I remember you were my first true twitter bud back in the day when we had both gotten started! You have always stayed true to your friends, and engaged with everyone, and that speaks volumes of your character.

    You consistently bring value to Twitter, and you have truly changed the face of Twitter, and many peoples lives that you have touched, forever.

    I just know you are going to knock 2010 out of the park without a doubt. You deserve it brotha, I couldn't be happier for you!!

    Thanks for everything that you share with us on a daily basis on Twitter, and thanks for being an awesome friend!

    Rock on Brotha! #kaboom

  • http://themarketingmark.blogspot.com MarkSherrick

    Despite your use of foursquare, you do have a point. If you provide good content that isn't just retweets, people will find you. Many of the people that I follow also follow you, and it's not an accident.

    Sarah thinks we are similar people away from Twitter – now I just need to work on being more like you ON twitter as well. I need moe original content for that for sure.

  • http://www.myrecipeforlife.com/ daniellemmiller

    Hi Jen:-)

    I read your post and wanted to share a smile with you…good for you for NOT deleting it (I often have my finger having over the delete key half a dozen times a day);-)

    I wanted to give you my take on the question you posed about being more “polished”. I think of twitter and FB as a cocktail party (you may have heard that analogy before) where everyone mingles and talks to each other…the piece that no one addresses is what if you're NOT comfortable at a cocktail party? What if you're the shy girl at the party who feels like a wallflower?

    I think we are always working on our polishing, it's part of growing into our own special place. I've been on twitter for a pretty long time and I am by no means an expert, but I think if you start to interact with people YOU feel comfortable with (some of the tribe here for instance) you'll start to see a path emerge that feels right for you. I can honestly tell you that I have and am continuing to cultivate amazing friendships and it is SO incredible.

    Hoping we can connect on twitter;-)

  • Anonymous

    Great article Calvin! As someone that’s known you over a year now, I have to agree – I’ve seen you totally blossom. I’m continually smiling these days reading your tweets to see how you’ve continued to open up and venture into new, unchartered territory while becoming a social butterfly!

    You’re a great example of what social media is about – being true, authentic and letting your personality shine through.

  • http://megustacooking.com/ cyuskoff

    Nicely done, Cal. Next step is speaking engagements, right!? You can do it! : D

  • jen.

    Danielle, how sweet! Thank you! Wow, here I've collected three new friends and I am SO not the girl who's comfortable at the cocktail party (I guess if I think about it, I usually try to get out of myself and make someone else feel comfortable, having given up on even wanting to be one of the “cool kids.”)!

    Thank you very much for the encouragement. It's true, whenever I have started interacting with someone, it's exciting and I feel I'm growing. The trouble begins when I start thinking how wonderful and accomplished these people are who actually bother to talk to me, and then spiral on into “what is my point anyway?!” I know that it truly must be as you say, that the path will become clear if I just keep showing up. So I will do it! Off to follow you on Twitter now… :) Cheers!

  • http://www.accessabundance.com/ Teresa Romain

    Hey Jen! I can't tell if you meant your comment to comfort me or overwhelm me more! Half of what you wrote was like a foreign language to me (I mean, really – “twerpscan, tweetpsych”, etc.). LOL!

    I promise… somehow or other I will be on Twitter (even if I don't have a clue after that) by Friday and feel a little safer (like you mentioned in a different comment) that I have found three supporters here who can help me get my feet wet (instead of drowning).

  • http://Cate.TV/ Cate.TV

    Calvin – every time i see you on Twitter I want to reach out and give you a hug :) – thanks for putting up with my chatting about @dailymugs – you could have not responded and/or engaged – you my dear are a true “if” (internet friend) for sure :)

  • jen.

    LOL – I am so sorry, Teresa! I definitely meant to comfort! Really, there's nothing to it other than signing up. Once you add a few interesting friends, it just flows from there. If you have any specific (or general) questions once you get there, I would be happy to try and help (and feel all valuable and stuff). :)

  • http://jimsmarketingblog.com/ Jim Connolly

    Superb post!

    Calvin and I have been connected via Twitter for around 2 years, maybe more, and he’s one of the nicest guys you could hope to meet.

    The thing that I love about the 4 tips Calvin gives here, is that he ACTUALLY lives by them. Too often we hear people give instruction, but fail to take their own advice.

    Kudos on a great blog!

  • http://www.secretsushi.com/ Adam Helweh

    I can concur that Calvin definitely takes his tweeting and his friends seriously. I took advantage of being in southern California for the 140tc conference and connected with Calvin. He was kind enough to drive me to my hotel and back during the couple days there and I got an opportunity to get to know him offline after following this tweeting maniac for well over a year. The guy was sincere and never say a harsh word towards anybody.

    I would have never known he was anything else but a wild outgoing party dude, but he is really a just kind and rather soft spoken guy that enjoys good company with good folks.

  • http://www.bighdesign.com/ Justin Moore-Brown

    Fantastic tips Calvin! Love the fact that your tips show reinforce your views of making genuine connections.

    Thanks to both you and Sarah for sharing these wonderful insights!

  • http://digigirlmisty.blogspot.com/ Mistygirlph

    I agree with all your points here Calvin and the very reason I love following you is because you have been consistent since the day we met on Twitter. I have so proudly called you my Twitter Jedi because you have shared so many tips and have been helping people like me open up and dare to dream. True there are no big secrets when it comes to Twitter, engage, converse, share and just be yourself. Great post Calvin!

  • http://faleafine.com NEENZ

    This past October, at BlogWorld Expo I finally got the opportunity to meet Calvin as we sat and talked at the Alltop booth. He truly is a genuine person, resourceful and helpful, not to mention — he has very cool hair! He designed the latest business cards for the Alltop team, a gig he got because his sincerity caught the attention of Guy! :)

  • nazimaali

    Great post Calvin, thank you.

  • http://www.forrestkobayashi.com Forrest W. Kobayashi

    It was an absolute pleasure getting a chance to meet Calvin at the #140conf in Los Angeles this past October. He is such a nice, genuine person and I can say that my experience at the conference would have been much different had he not been there.

    The points he raises here in the article are key for anyone who is looking to get the most enjoyment out of the Twitter experience.

  • http://www.ruhanirabin.com/ Ruhani Rabin

    I’ve been Calvin’s fan since quite a while, his interactions are true human, values and struck an opinion. Inspired by him, I’ve been another #NightOwl in the crowd, thinking, interacting as a real person can do on twitter. Mark the points he added over this post. Those will serve any twitter users who wants to build real relationship. Following his footsteps as a twitter mentor, I’ve managed to create several valuable and real relationships around the world. For me twitter is game changer such as he described.

    Besides that, he is an amazing person to talk to. Informative, Positive, Lively conversations and a total real personality.

    As he mentioned

    “If you add value, people will be drawn to you.”

    Always remember that.

  • http://www.muellerandrew.com andrewmueller

    Calvin,

    It takes a lot of courage to open up, be vulnerable, and share as you did in this post. You are spot on with the advice to give, simple truths that yield great benefits. It is clear that you live by the insights you shared here. Being kind, generous, and genuine goes a long way on Twitter as it does in life. Nice guys, no matter where they finish, finish feeling good about who they are. Proud to call you my friend!

    Andrew

  • http://twitter.com/staceysoleil Stacey Soleil

    Calvin, you are indeed a genuine and rare type amongst the famed Twitteratti. I appreciate and adore you more than you even realize…AND to think we met on Twitter FIRST, and now we are IRL buddies that hang out ALL THE TIME. Great article, thanks for sharing and for just being YOU! -xo

  • bethfrysztak

    So what can I say? What a wonderful piece Cal. It is great to see you here – and yes, I can be one of the first to say that lal within this article is really YOU. You are humble, honest, direct, helpful – and all around a wonderful person. IT is meaningless to have relationships – even business relationships with people unless you can know them – REALLY know them! I have watched you really grow with your multiple “posse's” — and seen you move from tweeting to tweeting and then engaging. Isn't it fun? You are a dear friend Cal – and I am so lucky to have met you. I hope you learn as much from me — as I have from you.
    Beth

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  • http://askaaronlee.com/ Aaron Lee

    Calvin,

    This is a great share.
    Never knew we are similar in many ways, asian family, etc..
    Twitter really changed how I socialized too.
    Still have lots to learn from you.
    Great post nonetheless. You are one of the social powers =)

    Cheers
    Aaron

  • http://www.bitrebels.com/ Richard Darell

    Really nice pointers and as you know Calvin, you have been the mentor for so many, me included, and I am sure by the end of this year you will have an even bigger audience that needs their Calvin fix in order to get their gears together. Keep inspiring! Keep kindness close to your heart and make sure everyone knows that it’s not the color of your smile that leads people to chat with you. It’s the way you bend your smile. ;)

    My best and greatest!

  • sharonhayes

    Great article Calvin! As someone that's known you over a year now, I have to agree – I've seen you totally blossom. I'm continually smiling these days reading your tweets to see how you've continued to open up and venture into new, unchartered territory while becoming a social butterfly!

    You're a great example of what social media is about – being true, authentic and letting your personality shine through.

  • catecolgan

    Calvin – every time i see you on Twitter I want to reach out and give you a hug :) – thanks for putting up with my chatting about @dailymugs – you could have not responded and/or engaged – you my dear are a true “if” (internet friend) for sure :)

  • http://jimsmarketingblog.com/ Jim Connolly

    Superb post!

    Calvin and I have been connected via Twitter for around 2 years, maybe more, and he's one of the nicest guys you could hope to meet.

    The thing that I love about the 4 tips Calvin gives here, is that he ACTUALLY lives by them. Too often we hear people give instruction, but fail to take their own advice.

    Kudos on a great blog!

  • http://www.secretsushi.com/ Adam Helweh

    I can concur that Calvin definitely takes his tweeting and his friends seriously. I took advantage of being in southern California for the 140tc conference and connected with Calvin. He was kind enough to drive me to my hotel and back during the couple days there and I got an opportunity to get to know him offline after following this tweeting maniac for well over a year. The guy was sincere and never say a harsh word towards anybody.

    I would have never known he was anything else but a wild outgoing party dude, but he is really a just kind and rather soft spoken guy that enjoys good company with good folks.

  • http://www.honeybeeconsulting.com startabuzz

    First off, Calvin, I’m gonna say loud and clear that you absolutely practice what you preach! You were one of the very first people to really interact with me on Twitter and made it a really great place for me to be.

    Second, I *always* learn something new from you … it’s not just that you’re NICE. You’re always putting great information and content out there.

    I think that newcomers can learn a lot from you about how to take care of business (and friendships) online. Terrific advice, Mr. Lee!!

  • http://digigirlmisty.blogspot.com/ Mistygirlph

    I agree with all your points here Calvin and the very reason I love following you is because you have been consistent since the day we met on Twitter. I have so proudly called you my Twitter Jedi because you have shared so many tips and have been helping people like me open up and dare to dream. True there are no big secrets when it comes to Twitter, engage, converse, share and just be yourself. Great post Calvin!

  • http://faleafine.com NEENZ

    This past October, at BlogWorld Expo I finally got the opportunity to meet Calvin as we sat and talked at the Alltop booth. He truly is a genuine person, resourceful and helpful, not to mention — he has very cool hair! He designed the latest business cards for the Alltop team, a gig he got because his sincerity caught the attention of Guy! :)

  • http://twitter.com/ScottWilliams Scott Williams

    Well said Calvin… The reality is that you live everyone of those values out. It’s cool to have you as one of my Social Media Friends. #FistBump and keep adding value to our online experience!

  • http://www.forrestkobayashi.com Forrest W. Kobayashi

    It was an absolute pleasure getting a chance to meet Calvin at the #140conf in Los Angeles this past October. He is such a nice, genuine person and I can say that my experience at the conference would have been much different had he not been there.

    The points he raises here in the article are key for anyone who is looking to get the most enjoyment out of the Twitter experience.

  • http://www.ruhanirabin.com Ruhani Rabin

    I've been Calvin's fan since quite a while, his interactions are true human, values and struck an opinion. Inspired by him, I've been another #NightOwl in the crowd, thinking, interacting as a real person can do on twitter. Mark the points he added over this post. Those will serve any twitter users who wants to build real relationship. Following his footsteps as a twitter mentor, I've managed to create several valuable and real relationships around the world. For me twitter is game changer such as he described.

    Besides that, he is an amazing person to talk to. Informative, Positive, Lively conversations and a total real personality.

    As he mentioned

    “If you add value, people will be drawn to you.”

    Always remember that.

  • http://twitter.com/mayhemstudios Calvin Lee

    Sarah, Thank you for the opportunity to contribute to “30 Days to Changing Your Game.” I hope my story will inspire others. :)

    - Cal

  • http://twitter.com/mayhemstudios Calvin Lee

    I'm glad I was that reminder for you and hopefully for more people too.

  • http://askaaronlee.com/ Aaron Lee

    Calvin,

    This is a great share.
    Never knew we are similar in many ways, asian family, etc..
    Twitter really changed how I socialized too.
    Still have lots to learn from you.
    Great post nonetheless. You are one of the social powers =)

    Cheers
    Aaron

  • http://twitter.com/mayhemstudios Calvin Lee

    Welcome! I think there are a lot of people like us, introverts but also like help others. Many don't take a chance by putting themselves out there or try to get to know others, because they are afraid of what people might think about them. It might be scary at first but, you get the hang of it.

    - Cal

  • http://www.bitrebels.com/ Richard Darell

    Really nice pointers and as you know Calvin, you have been the mentor for so many, me included, and I am sure by the end of this year you will have an even bigger audience that needs their Calvin fix in order to get their gears together. Keep inspiring! Keep kindness close to your heart and make sure everyone knows that it's not the color of your smile that leads people to chat with you. It's the way you bend your smile. ;)

    My best and greatest!

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  • http://www.giuliettathemuse.com/blog giulietta

    Hey Sarah, another great song pick! I love the Cure. Amazing band.

    Hey Calvin, great post. I’m a designer and a muse so I enjoyed going to your site. Good portfolio. Will look for you on Twitter.

    All helpful points. Share your life speaks to me the most. I’ve never understood the stiff business persona model – when I worked the corporate scene or when I started working for myself. Yet, I see it adopted by folks everywhere! At first I thought I had to be corporate-like when I opened my business. Yuck! Much easier to be myself — and brings in better clients!

    See you in twitterland.

    Giulietta, Inspirational Rebel

  • http://twitter.com/mayhemstudios Calvin Lee

    Glad you're taking your first steps. Just be YOU! If you're genuine, people will see that. On Twitter there aren't really any rules. Twitter is what you make it. What I've done is follow people with similar interests and jumping into those conversations. You can also have your own niche, mine is design but eventually branched out by tweeting about my other interests.

    Twitter is like any traditional networking and connecting. It can be scary at first and will take some time to build up your network and following. My final word is have FUN!

    - Cal

  • Anonymous

    How did I miss a day! Thank you Calvin, belatedly! I’ve loved the start of buiding a new little community here. On Twitter is where I found Sarah R and this group. I’ve loved it so much and it all came to me at exactly the right time. I’m still a little shy- but taking bold steps in ‘talking’ to others. Your story is amazing! All best to you-

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  • http://twitter.com/mayhemstudios Calvin Lee

    Thanks for all the support and being such a great friend. It seems like it was just yesterday that we met at the Chris Brogan event for the very first time. I've grown and learnt so much since then because of Twitter. It has helped me to open up more and take chances. I really enjoy interacting and meeting new people.

    I was at a party the other night with friends that know me from before Twitter. They were all saying how much I've changed, that I joke around a lot more and talkative. Yes, I do have those quiet moments too.

    I decided not to hide in the corner anymore and wait for people to come to me. I had to make it happen; mingle, interaction and take control. The payoff is well worth it. I've met so many people that I have become such good friends with online and IRL. If it wasn't for Twitter, I wouldn't have meet all these great friends.

    - Cal

  • http://twitter.com/mayhemstudios Calvin Lee

    Thanks Jacob! You're a awesome and giving person too. Always sharing your design process on design projects, helping fellow designers understand. You're the real deal!

    - Cal

  • http://twitter.com/mayhemstudios Calvin Lee

    You're always so hilarious! I love reading your tweets and blog post roasting celebrities, tech, etc. You're always dead on. Thanks for the support and being part of Twitter community.

    - Cal

  • http://www.honeybeeconsulting.com startabuzz

    First off, Calvin, I'm gonna say loud and clear that you absolutely practice what you preach! You were one of the very first people to really interact with me on Twitter and made it a really great place for me to be.

    Second, I *always* learn something new from you … it's not just that you're NICE. You're always putting great information and content out there.

    I think that newcomers can learn a lot from you about how to take care of business (and friendships) online. Terrific advice, Mr. Lee!!

  • http://twitter.com/ScottWilliams Scott Williams

    Well said Calvin… The reality is that you live everyone of those values out. It's cool to have you as one of my Social Media Friends. #FistBump and keep adding value to our online experience!

  • http://hardlynormal.com hardlynormal

    great post!

    i too have found a wonderful experience with social media

    the hardest part for most is the risk of being vulnerable. but once a person drops down the walls others feel comfortable in being real

  • http://www.blackbeltguide.com/ Marc Winitz

    Great points and advice Calvin, thanks. I’ll connect with you on Twitter!

  • http://marismith.com Mari Smith

    Big props to Calvin – for sure one of the nicest guys on the internet… and completely congruent offline. I love it when I meet peeps in person that I’ve connected with online and there is this seamless presence to how they are being. That’s Calvin! :) Very true that some folks try to over complicate success with Twitter, social media, the internet… and it can really boil down to simple universal truths of being helpful and kind. :)
    Cheers
    @marismith

  • http://www.tehjess.com/ Jess Webb

    Teresa, I'm new to the whole Twitter world as well, and am completely with you on feeling overwhelmed!!!! I've “played” with it before, but never got it and always gave up because of feeling overwhelmed. This time I'm coming at it from a different angle, not trying to use it for “business” but to really connect with people. And it's STILL overwhelming, but I know it will come. :) Definitely look me up too once you are on at the end of the week! :) @TehJessW

  • http://www.tehjess.com/ Jess Webb

    I'm definitely not the comfortable one at the cocktail party either! LOL. Am following you on Twitter now, Jen, and looking forward to getting to know you! :)

  • http://twitter.com/mike_key Michael Key

    Great Calvin, I’ve been following you and I need to take up this challenge myself. But this month I’m taking up a fitness challenge, like some programmers, I’ve lost my game and gained some fat instead. Doesn’t go well with the adventure seeker. I can’t be a fat guy and say, hey I’m Mike Key I climb mountains.

  • http://www.giuliettathemuse.com/blog giulietta

    Hey Sarah, another great song pick! I love the Cure. Amazing band.

    Hey Calvin, great post. I'm a designer and a muse so I enjoyed going to your site. Good portfolio. Will look for you on Twitter.

    All helpful points. Share your life speaks to me the most. I've never understood the stiff business persona model – when I worked the corporate scene or when I started working for myself. Yet, I see it adopted by folks everywhere! At first I thought I had to be corporate-like when I opened my business. Yuck! Much easier to be myself — and brings in better clients!

    See you in twitterland.

    Giulietta, Inspirational Rebel

  • meganmatthieson

    How did I miss a day! Thank you Calvin, belatedly! I've loved the start of buiding a new little community here. On Twitter is where I found Sarah R and this group. I've loved it so much and it all came to me at exactly the right time. I'm still a little shy- but taking bold steps in 'talking' to others. Your story is amazing! All best to you-

  • http://NaomiTrower.com Naomi Trower

    Yay, Calvin! Excellent ideas here! I enjoyed meeting you at the Twitter conference last year. Thanks for always keeping me up to date on events like Blogworld & CES. LOL It is always great to meet people IRL and build a sense of community. I have so many friends that just don’t “get”Twitter. I try to explain it to them and some get it and some don’t. You are definitely one of the ones that “get” Twitter and have FUN with it. :)

  • http://twitter.com/DooneyPug Lori Finnigan

    Calvin

    Thanks for the reminder and list of Twitter Tools. I have read a few lists of Tips, most of them pretty long. Yours is concise and simple to follow. The best advice is to be yourself, always. The world is no longer so large and faraway-I follow people across the country and in other countries entirely, all close enough to touch (almost). My secret desire is to find my own area of expertise and be able to provide more info to those who have chosen to follow me. Maybe I will find it, maybe not. Either way, I won’t stop trying and I won’t stop having fun.

  • http://CouchSurfingOri.com/ Couchsurfing Ori

    Holy crap! Great stuff dude! I say Holy Crap, because this post looks almost identitcal to my lecture next month at a social media event that I’m speaking at! Twitter is just a tool that lets you build connections… but growing them is truly is done in person. Remember how I got excited in Vegas when I realized you were you?

    Social media is great for coming out of your shell, because there’s so many people, and someone out there has an appreciation for who you are. I mean, there’s even people who appreciate couchsurfers that tell bad jokes and play bull poker! Who knew? :)

    I’m definitely glad that you figured out that this was the outlet for you, and I’m glad it gave you that release- Twitter would suck without your stream :)

  • http://easisell.com/ Clement Yeung

    Way to go Calvin. I find that your presence on Twitter is incredibly valuable. You bring so much to the table and I’m honored to have you in my social circle.

    You speak many truths about social media being the catalyst for massive confidence and self-esteem. Many people are of the opinion that spending as much time as you and I do socializing online somehow means we will be much less apt when it comes to offline socializing.

    Whilst that may be true in some cases, I would think that in the majority of cases it actually strengthens people’s ability to socialize offline.

  • http://symbalooedu.com Kimmie Chann Fortelny

    Hi Calvin being of an Asian background as well I really connected with what you had to say in the first paragraph. I have always believed that you should use negative situations to drive you to produce positive results so I just want to give you kudos for doing just that!!!

  • jen.

    Jess, you are amazing! I've just bookmarked your blog (in 3 places, you are THAT inspiring!) and am off to Twitter to dig on your Jessaliciousness. Thank you for reaching out to me! :)

  • http://hardlynormal.com hardlynormal

    great post!

    i too have found a wonderful experience with social media

    the hardest part for most is the risk of being vulnerable. but once a person drops down the walls others feel comfortable in being real

  • http://www.blackbeltguide.com/ Marc Winitz

    Great points and advice Calvin, thanks. I'll connect with you on Twitter!

  • http://facebook.com/marismith MariSmith

    Big props to Calvin – for sure one of the nicest guys on the internet… and completely congruent offline. I love it when I meet peeps in person that I've connected with online and there is this seamless presence to how they are being. That's Calvin! :) Very true that some folks try to over complicate success with Twitter, social media, the internet… and it can really boil down to simple universal truths of being helpful and kind. :)
    Cheers
    @marismith

  • http://www.facebook.com/hawaiirealty HawaiiRealty

    Cal,

    Excellent post! Your positivity and willingness to help others is amazing. Keep up the great work!

    Thank you for all you add to the world and keeping social media a good, fun place to be.

    Mahalo!

    Kelly

  • http://www.facebook.com/hawaiirealty HawaiiRealty

    Aloha Cal! This post is so much like you. So giving and filled with positive notes and helpful hints. I had no idea you weren’t already a seasoned Social Media afficiando when I first met you on Twitter. It says a lot about you and how you communicate with others. Thank you for being you. Can’t wait to meet you IRL! Kelly

  • http://twitter.com/mike_key Michael Key

    Great Calvin, I've been following you and I need to take up this challenge myself. But this month I'm taking up a fitness challenge, like some programmers, I've lost my game and gained some fat instead. Doesn't go well with the adventure seeker. I can't be a fat guy and say, hey I'm Mike Key I climb mountains.

  • http://www.tehjess.com/ Jess Webb

    You're welcome – and thank YOU for connecting as well! :)

  • http://NaomiTrower.com Naomi Trower

    Yay, Calvin! Excellent ideas here! I enjoyed meeting you at the Twitter conference last year. Thanks for always keeping me up to date on events like Blogworld & CES. LOL It is always great to meet people IRL and build a sense of community. I have so many friends that just don't “get”Twitter. I try to explain it to them and some get it and some don't. You are definitely one of the ones that “get” Twitter and have FUN with it. :)

  • http://sem-group.net/search-engine-optimization-blog/ Gerald Weber

    Calvin,

    I can’t agree with you more regarding Twitter and your overall philosophy. Twitter has added so much to my business and my life. Some of the connections and friends I have made from Twitter are truly amazing.

    Great post. Keep up the excellent work!. :-)

  • http://twitter.com/DooneyPug Lori Finnigan

    Calvin

    Thanks for the reminder and list of Twitter Tools. I have read a few lists of Tips, most of them pretty long. Yours is concise and simple to follow. The best advice is to be yourself, always. The world is no longer so large and faraway-I follow people across the country and in other countries entirely, all close enough to touch (almost). My secret desire is to find my own area of expertise and be able to provide more info to those who have chosen to follow me. Maybe I will find it, maybe not. Either way, I won't stop trying and I won't stop having fun.

  • http://CouchSurfingOri.com/ Couchsurfing Ori

    Holy crap! Great stuff dude! I say Holy Crap, because this post looks almost identitcal to my lecture next month at a social media event that I'm speaking at! Twitter is just a tool that lets you build connections… but growing them is truly is done in person. Remember how I got excited in Vegas when I realized you were you?

    Social media is great for coming out of your shell, because there's so many people, and someone out there has an appreciation for who you are. I mean, there's even people who appreciate couchsurfers that tell bad jokes and play bull poker! Who knew? :)

    I'm definitely glad that you figured out that this was the outlet for you, and I'm glad it gave you that release- Twitter would suck without your stream :)

  • http://easisell.com/ Clement Yeung

    Way to go Calvin. I find that your presence on Twitter is incredibly valuable. You bring so much to the table and I'm honored to have you in my social circle.

    You speak many truths about social media being the catalyst for massive confidence and self-esteem. Many people are of the opinion that spending as much time as you and I do socializing online somehow means we will be much less apt when it comes to offline socializing.

    Whilst that may be true in some cases, I would think that in the majority of cases it actually strengthens people's ability to socialize offline.

  • kimmiechann

    Hi Calvin being of an Asian background as well I really connected with what you had to say in the first paragraph. I have always believed that you should use negative situations to drive you to produce positive results so I just want to give you kudos for doing just that!!!

  • http://www.accessabundance.com/ Teresa Romain

    Thanks Jen! I just might take you up on your offer! <grin>

  • http://www.accessabundance.com/ Teresa Romain

    Thanks so much Calvin… sounds like I should focus more on “doing it REAL” than on “doing it RIGHT”!

  • http://www.facebook.com/hawaiirealty HawaiiRealty

    Cal,

    Excellent post! Your positivity and willingness to help others is amazing. Keep up the great work!

    Thank you for all you add to the world and keeping social media a good, fun place to be.

    Mahalo!

    Kelly

  • http://www.facebook.com/hawaiirealty HawaiiRealty

    Aloha Cal! This post is so much like you. So giving and filled with positive notes and helpful hints. I had no idea you weren't already a seasoned Social Media afficiando when I first met you on Twitter. It says a lot about you and how you communicate with others. Thank you for being you. Can't wait to meet you IRL! Kelly

  • http://twitter.com/imadnaffa Imad Naffa

    Calvin,

    Thank you for sharing a very personal aspect of your life with the rest of us. It was helpful and insightful how you approached the subject and I think many of us will relate to your experience and benefit. Your four points of success on Twitter are simple, yet powerful and DO work!

    Wishing you the best,

    Imad

  • http://twitter.com/krystynchong Krys

    Oh so emulated but never duplicated, you have inspired thousands upon thousands of twits w/your friendly demeanor and great style. What a twitter story you have. You’ve found your niche and you’ve found yourself! I adore you, Cal, and I’m one of the lucky who can say they’ve met you IRL and been out on the dance floor w/you. Even though you didn’t come get me at E3 BECAUSE OF TRAFFIC. lol ;)

    I’m glad I met you. You are definitely one of the most charming and quick-witted tweeters to grace the twitterverse. Never forget where you come from, always keep it real. You rock, Cal.

  • http://sem-group.net/search-engine-optimization-blog/ Gerald Weber

    Calvin,

    I can't agree with you more regarding Twitter and your overall philosophy. Twitter has added so much to my business and my life. Some of the connections and friends I have made from Twitter are truly amazing.

    Great post. Keep up the excellent work!. :-)

  • http://twitter.com/imadnaffa Imad Naffa

    Calvin,

    Thank you for sharing a very personal aspect of your life with the rest of us. It was helpful and insightful how you approached the subject and I think many of us will relate to your experience and benefit. Your four points of success on Twitter are simple, yet powerful and DO work!

    Wishing you the best,

    Imad

  • http://twitter.com/krystynchong Krys

    Oh so emulated but never duplicated, you have inspired thousands upon thousands of twits w/your friendly demeanor and great style. What a twitter story you have. You've found your niche and you've found yourself! I adore you, Cal, and I'm one of the lucky who can say they've met you IRL and been out on the dance floor w/you. Even though you didn't come get me at E3 BECAUSE OF TRAFFIC. lol ;)

    I'm glad I met you. You are definitely one of the most charming and quick-witted tweeters to grace the twitterverse. Never forget where you come from, always keep it real. You rock, Cal.

  • http://sallyg.me Sally G.

    Good morning Calvin (and everyone)!!

    Like many of my fellow Tribe-mates, I’m relatively new to Twitter ~ and I’m also an Introvert … and I feel like Twitter is such a magnificent platform for relationship building, connecting and sharing for those of us who are too shy, or sensitive to energies, or reticent to ‘put ourselves out there’ in a physical setting of gathered ‘strangers’.

    With Twitter (and Facebook Fan Pages, and Comment Sections of Blog Sites) – I can muster the courage to ‘talk’ to people I would never have the confidence to approach ‘in real life’. And the most wonderful surprise is that my greatest fears (rejection, dismissal, humiliation, disrespect) have never been realized – NOT ONCE! Through this forum, I’m getting to know the most incredible people. Through laughter, information sharing, resource sharing, opinion sharing and encouragement/support/cheering ~ I, too, am growing in confidence and esteem. And I am now taking steps in my ‘real world’ in hopes that I’ll find the same outcome there.

    The way others speak about you when you’re not there is such a powerful indicator of the qualities and values you hold dear. I’m grateful to have arrived to this blog post late – because I’m leaving feeling like I’ve just met somebody very special – and significant. Thank you Calvin …

    • http://twitter.com/mayhemstudios Calvin Lee

      Sally, very kind of you to say. :)

      Twitter is a great community with awesome people. I’ve made so many new friends and connections. Everyone is willing to help in time of need. When you’re ready, take it to the next level; Meeting people IRL at Tweetups and conferences. It really helps to build a deeper bond with people.

      Yes, it might be kind of scary for us introverts but once you attend a few tweetups or conferences, you’ll be OK.

      – Cal

  • http://www.facebook.com/pages/Caring-Creates-/228986840568 Sally G.

    Good morning Jen! I've been out of town for awhile and am just re-integrating into Life. Sorry for the delay in reading your comment. Like you, I have no clear 'business' or 'sell' at the moment ~ I hope to share my gifts and abilities as a service at some point this year … but am still in the planning phases. I actively participated in Twitter just a few months ago – and am finding great pleasure in connecting with people as an encourager, supporter, motivator, or to just let them know that someone has read their tweet or gets where they're coming from. So, I guess I'm just serving as a Friend right now.

    With Twitter (as with all things in life, I guess) – BEing your Self is the attractive energy that will ensure those who need you, will find you. And perhaps those who you need will find you too. I'm still learning new things about the basics of effective Twitter participation (for instance, to see comments people who I wasn't yet following sent me – I had to go to the @Sally_G page. I was simultaneously thrilled and embarrassed to discover that a month or so into my adventure!). I'll always help any way I can – please don't be afraid to ask … Sally.

  • http://www.facebook.com/pages/Caring-Creates-/228986840568 Sally G.

    Good morning Teresa – I'm so glad you're joining Twitter this week. Please look me up @Sally_G You have so much of value to share ~ coupled with your compassion and kindness for others – I have no doubt your Followers will grow in a way that may surprise you. Looking forward to the connection …

  • http://www.facebook.com/pages/Caring-Creates-/228986840568 Sally G.

    I'm certainly grateful for Twitter and Sarah for creating the space for us to meet Lori!

  • http://www.facebook.com/pages/Caring-Creates-/228986840568 Sally G.

    Good morning Calvin (and everyone)!!

    Like many of my fellow Tribe-mates, I'm relatively new to Twitter ~ and I'm also an Introvert … and I feel like Twitter is such a magnificent platform for relationship building, connecting and sharing for those of us who are too shy, or sensitive to energies, or reticent to 'put ourselves out there' in a physical setting of gathered 'strangers'.

    With Twitter (and Facebook Fan Pages, and Comment Sections of Blog Sites) – I can muster the courage to 'talk' to people I would never have the confidence to approach 'in real life'. And the most wonderful surprise is that my greatest fears (rejection, dismissal, humiliation, disrespect) have never been realized – NOT ONCE! Through this forum, I'm getting to know the most incredible people. Through laughter, information sharing, resource sharing, opinion sharing and encouragement/support/cheering ~ I, too, am growing in confidence and esteem. And I am now taking steps in my 'real world' in hopes that I'll find the same outcome there.

    The way others speak about you when you're not there is such a powerful indicator of the qualities and values you hold dear. I'm grateful to have arrived to this blog post late – because I'm leaving feeling like I've just met somebody very special – and significant. Thank you Calvin …

  • http://twitter.com/alanajoy Alana Joy

    Nice job with this post Calvin! Sometimes the demands placed on us make us forget that what really builds relationships is to actually: build them. Your points remind us of that.

    • http://twitter.com/mayhemstudios Calvin Lee

      When I first meet the crew we hang with now. It was a little intimating, hard for a new person to break into an established group. Especially since the people in the group were high up and well known on twitter and tech scene. As I interacted and hung out with you guys more, everyone welcome me in :)

      – Cal

  • http://twitter.com/randomshelly Shelly

    I felt the dame way and now I love being on Twitter and FB and reading a lot of the tweets and status updates… I try not to do the “I'm going to lunch now” tweets and updates! But I looked at the the lists I was on the other day and someone had put me on a wordy folk list! LOL – They said it was a good thing but I still laughed! :)

  • http://twitter.com/randomshelly Shelly

    Let me know when you get on there! @randomshelly – I will help you out in any way that I can! :)

  • http://kevinvandever.com/ Kevin Vandever

    Thanks Calvin. I will see you at an OC or LA tweetup soon.

  • http://twitter.com/AlanaJoy Alana Joy

    Nice job with this post Calvin! Sometimes the demands placed on us make us forget that what really builds relationships is to actually: build them. Your points remind us of that.

  • http://kevinvandever.com/ Kevin Vandever

    Thanks Calvin. I will see you at an OC or LA tweetup soon.

  • http://twitter.com/mayhemstudios Calvin Lee

    When I first meet the crew we hang with now. It was a little intimating, hard for a new person to break into an established group. Especially since the people in the group were high up and well known on twitter and tech scene. As I interacted and hung out with you guys more, everyone welcome me in :)

    - Cal

  • http://twitter.com/mayhemstudios Calvin Lee

    Sally, very kind of you to say. :)

    Twitter is a great community with awesome people. I've made so many new friends and connections. Everyone is willing to help in time of need. When you're ready, take it to the next level; Meeting people IRL at Tweetups and conferences. It really helps to build a deeper bond with people.

    Yes, it might be kind of scary for us introverts but once you attend a few tweetups or conferences, you'll be OK.

    - Cal

  • http://jonahh.com/ Jonahh

    “But many that are first shall be last; and the last shall be first.” Matthew 19:30

    Back in my teens, this Bible line used to be one of my mother’s favourites when I told her I was ‘finishing last’ too often (and suffering from it…). Well, it didn’t’ help a lot, and I totally can relate to your premise Calvin. And I find it sincerely amazing how you took the opportunity to ‘change your game’.

    I wonder though how your being yourself contributed to this, so that you could make your discoveries in the first place. In my experience, a big portion of that ‘being building’ you’re talking about happens in a certain kind of solitude, and can be rather painful. There’s a uniqueness growing on you that people are actually drawn to I think. In a way, you’ve been to the ‘other site’, and that’s where the appreciation for the ‘little things’ maybe comes from. And I think you’re right that this is not a ‘Twitterville’ thing…

  • http://jonahh.com/ Jonahh

    “But many that are first shall be last; and the last shall be first.” Matthew 19:30

    Back in my teens, this Bible line used to be one of my mother's favourites when I told her I was 'finishing last' too often (and suffering from it…). Well, it didn't' help a lot, and I totally can relate to your premise Calvin. And I find it sincerely amazing how you took the opportunity to 'change your game'.

    I wonder though how your being yourself contributed to this, so that you could make your discoveries in the first place. In my experience, a big portion of that 'being building' you're talking about happens in a certain kind of solitude, and can be rather painful. There's a uniqueness growing on you that people are actually drawn to I think. In a way, you've been to the 'other site', and that's where the appreciation for the 'little things' maybe comes from. And I think you're right that this is not a 'Twitterville' thing…

  • Anonymous

    Cal, I think everything you said is dead-on. In any community, on-line or off, it’s sincerity that turns an audience into a following, and ultimately a community. Sincerity leads to trust, and trust is a neccesary precursor to developing communities, businesses, relationships etc…, and that’s something you just can’t fake. Anyway not for long. But to get to the place you are now, Cal, let’s face it: you had to sleep with a lot of people along the way. Do you find yourself still having to do that, to gain for instance a particular celebrity follower? Or are those days behind you now? Haha love you dude! :-)

  • http://alrady.blogspot.com/ alrady40

    Calvin your tweets are exactly what you outline here. I kind of miss when the twitter field was smaller but still enjoy having your info come across my screen. You are probably the best role model for using twitter that I can think of. Had to give an old address as this site doesnt’ like yahoo or gmail as valid emails.

  • justinjameswilliams

    Cal, I think everything you said is dead-on. In any community, on-line or off, it's sincerity that turns an audience into a following, and ultimately a community. Sincerity leads to trust, and trust is a neccesary precursor to developing communities, businesses, relationships etc…, and that's something you just can't fake. Anyway not for long. But to get to the place you are now, Cal, let's face it: you had to sleep with a lot of people along the way. Do you find yourself still having to do that, to gain for instance a particular celebrity follower? Or are those days behind you now? Haha love you dude! :-)

  • http://alrady.blogspot.com/ alrady40

    Calvin your tweets are exactly what you outline here. I kind of miss when the twitter field was smaller but still enjoy having your info come across my screen. You are probably the best role model for using twitter that I can think of. Had to give an old address as this site doesnt' like yahoo or gmail as valid emails.

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  • http://twitter.com/sbeasla Sukhraj Beasla

    When I work with clients, I always quote from Field of Dreams. How funny! Because that’s what social media is – if you build it, they will come! Great blog post! :)

    • http://twitter.com/mayhemstudios Calvin Lee

      Thanks Sukhraj

      Glad you liked the post. I hope it’s inspiring for others too :)

  • http://twitter.com/sbeasla Sukhraj Beasla

    When I work with clients, I always quote from Field of Dreams. How funny! Because that's what social media is – if you build it, they will come! Great blog post! :)

  • http://twitter.com/mayhemstudios Calvin Lee

    Thanks Sukhraj

    Glad you liked the post. I hope it's inspiring for others too :)

  • http://superteammarketing.com Aetna J B

    Hi there and thanks for sharing. I started twittering about 3 months ago. I have about 7000 followers and just today I was thinking about how I must keep up the good content so to keep the followers I have and also continue to add more. Reading your advice helps keep me motivated.
    Aetna Jo

    • http://twitter.com/mayhemstudios Calvin Lee

      Thanks Aetna

      It’s always about your followers, it’s what you can do for them. I try to create new content that would be valuable for my followers and finding interesting & useful things to tweet about. There’s also a lot of bantering & fun that goes on. :)

      – Cal

  • http://euveng.com EVo

    I have a question..how do you keep up with such an insane number of followings? I have about 500 followings and it drives me crazy!

    • http://twitter.com/mayhemstudios Calvin Lee

      I use a twitter management app like Tweetdeck or Seesmic Desktop. You add people to groups/lists. You only see who you want to see. :)

  • http://superteammarketing.com Aetna J B

    Hi there and thanks for sharing. I started twittering about 3 months ago. I have about 7000 followers and just today I was thinking about how I must keep up the good content so to keep the followers I have and also continue to add more. Reading your advice helps keep me motivated.
    Aetna Jo

  • http://twitter.com/mayhemstudios Calvin Lee

    Thanks Aetna

    It's always about your followers, it's what you can do for them. I try to create new content that would be valuable for my followers and finding interesting & useful things to tweet about. There's also a lot of bantering & fun that goes on. :)

    - Cal

  • http://euveng.com EVo

    I have a question..how do you keep up with such an insane number of followings? I have about 500 followings and it drives me crazy!

  • http://twitter.com/mayhemstudios Calvin Lee

    I use a twitter management app like Tweetdeck or Seesmic Desktop. You add people to groups/lists. You only see who you want to see. :)

  • Besa

    Calvin,
    Thank you for sharing! I have been on twitter for a while and realize that I could have more fun with it!
    it’s on my phone for goodness sakes!

  • Besa

    Calvin,
    Thank you for sharing! I have been on twitter for a while and realize that I could have more fun with it!
    it's on my phone for goodness sakes!

  • http://www.AngelaArcher.com Angela Archer

    Hey Calvin, Thanks for sharing your tips! Those four tips sound simple but aren’t easy to put into practice. You do those four seemingly effortlessly.

    Your ascension in Twitterville really is incredible though, despite your humbleness about it! :)

    Are you the face of Twitter? If not, they should make you it! :)

    • http://twitter.com/mayhemstudios Calvin Lee

      Thank you for your kind words :)

  • http://www.AngelaArcher.com Angela Archer

    Hey Calvin, Thanks for sharing your tips! Those four tips sound simple but aren’t easy to put into practice. You do those four seemingly effortlessly.

    Your ascension in Twitterville really is incredible though, despite your humbleness about it! :)

    Are you the face of Twitter? If not, they should make you it! :)

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