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There’s Only So Much to Go Around

I’ve just returned from a much-needed family sojourn to the Gulf of Mexico to celebrate Spring Break. Lots of long walks and talks mixed in with some intense writing time.

All this moodling, talking and walking gave rise to a single common theme for everyone in our family: we are each trying to do too much. The Young Turk was the first to pipe up with this observation about himself. “Can I stop doing so much every day, Mom? I just want time to hang out at home without feeling rushed.”

Wise words for a nine-year old, don’t you think?

The more we talked about his desires, the more I realized I wanted the very same thing. Time to just hang out and be. It seemed like an impossible desire to fulfill considering the sudden take-off of my new thing, Fierce Loyalty. I’m writing a book, crafting guest posts, speaking at events, conducting interviews and a million other things that take up precious time.

And guess what? None of them are getting the proper time and attention. I’m moving so fast that I’m not doing anything well. And since I am the source of all this creation, I’m squandering the resource by spreading it to thin.

So, starting this week, I’m cutting back. I have to if I want to produce my very best work. What does that look like?

1. I’m paring down my coaching clients so I can give my best to a small group.

2. I’m cutting back on my blog posting. Not forever but until I get some other major writing projects out of the way.

3. My social media time is getting loped to a minimum. I still show up most days, but I don’t camp out on Twitter like I used to.

4. My newsletter will go out every other week now. Since I put it together myself, I want what I send to be rich and meaningful rather than something I dash off because it is “Newsletter Day”.

5. I’m building in “do nothing” time for every single day. The more I tap my creativity, the more I’ve got to have this time to re-fill the well.

Oh – and I’m making calls and cutting back on The Young Turk’s commitments, too. He is a creative and an empath just like me. I want him to learn to value Do Nothing time as a way to re-fuel and re-charge now before the world teaches him that it’s a waste of time. :-)

What about you? Are you feeling spread to thin? In need of some carved out Do Nothing Time so you can bring your best self back to the task at hand?

I’d love to hear about it. :-)

 

 

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  • RosyblueLA

    Sarah, I loved this post. I was thinking last week that it’s been a very long time since I have totally relaxed, either at home or anywhere. I haven’t taken a vacation in years. I have experienced family tragedies and feel myself being pulled from all directions.
    With that said, my birthday was yesterday. I vowed that I will make a change for ME! I will scheduled a vacation, hang out a favorite coffee house just for fun, read a book for enjoyment, and take a day off from work for me. 
    Thank you for the reminder.  

  • Alicia Marinache

    Oh, yes – we did exactly that a few years back… life was rushing us along and we were going nowhere, but running to get there! We take vacations, we take time off, we don’t work as hard. I have time for me – when I do exactly what I please: might not be for a long period of time, but if it’s half an hour I am OK, it is my time; everyone else in the family drops whatever they do every now and then and we are just being lazy… it’s OK to be lazy :) Most of the people would look at me and say things like ‘it must be nice to have all this time on your hand’ and I smile back and tell them we make the time :) Work and business and troubles will be there in 10 minutes (and if they aren’t anymore… yiipeee!) – but right *now* I can take a few minutes to admire the sun set :)

  • http://www.callahanmcdonough.com/ Callahan McDonough

    Hey Sarah, these are really powerful important insights. We have too much importance on doing and not enough on ‘being’.  Humans-doing v.s. humans-being.  I especially remember how full my plate stayed with my son Zach (now 33yrs) was little, how I yearned to to have hang out time, do whatever he wanted I wanted to relate to each and not stressed.  That time goes so amazingly rapidly ! I celebrate your knowing now how important that all is, then you can really remember these years with yourself, kids, husband life, sorta like a favorite movie :)
    Peace n’hugs.

  • http://www.lisarobbinyoung.com Lisa Robbin Young

    This is exactly what I’ve been dealing with – or what’s been dealing with me – since the beginning of the year. Clearing space to free up energy so that I can give my very best to what matters most. That includes a space cushion of time in each day to allow flow to do its thang. Not easy, but very necessary.

  • http://www.aroundthebirthingball.com/newblog/ Aroundthebirthingball

    I agree that it is important to schedule “do nothing” time.  I think we often over commit ourselves to too many things. And, our enjoyment of the activities to which we are committed suffers as a result.  

    What concerns me is that we impose this on our children and it becomes a self perpetuating cycle.  Not that I think kids should roam around doing nothing all day long all the time, but it every time there is a window in my son’s schedule for some reason I try to fill it, where instead I think I should just let him be.I wrote more about this here:http://www.aroundthebirthingball.com/newblog/2012/02/10/creative-boredom/ 

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