The Maverick Mom
n. One that refuses to abide by the dictates of or resists adherence to a group; a dissenter.
adj. Being independent in thought and action or exhibiting such independence.
Well that would be me and I am fairly certain I can’t be the only one! I am starting this blog as a way for other maverick moms to connect, learn and share their maverick ways. My indentity here is simple “M”. My thoughts and opinions may irritate the masses and quite frankly I don’t have time to deal with flaming personal emails, phone calls and, god forbid, visits to my house. You are welcome to adopt your very own Maverick Name while you are here as well.
Now, how do you know you are a Maverick Mom? I’ve been giving that a good bit of thought and this is what I’ve come up with so far ( I would love your additional thoughts!):
You are a Maverick Mom if:
You do not hover over your child at the playground or the swimming pool, certain that the other children are always in the wrong
You also do not abandon your child on the playground or the swimming pool to be supervised by other mothers while you chat away on your cell phone.
You are not obsessed with the genius level of your child.
You participate in your child’s education by reading stories, choosing educational games and helping (helping, I said, not doing) with homework. Unless you have very strong evidence to the contrary, you stand behind your child’s teacher – period.
You pay attention to what your child eats (limiting that fast food), but you do not make everything from scratch or control every morsel he or she eats. Unless, of course, there is special medical reason that requires such vigilance.
You do not find it necessary to go to the grocery store in status symbol togs like a tennis skirt or designer capris with Jimmy Choos. Nor do you go in your house slippers. Maverick Moms are all about self respect.
You are interesting (because you live an interesting life) and interested in others (because you are always anxious to learn about others).
You would rather bake brownies and watch a movie with your kids than go to that “see and be seen” cocktail party. (Sometimes Maverick Moms do attend such gatherings, dressed appropriately and able to carry their end of any conversation. Hostesses are always glad when a Maverick Mom graces her party with an appearance because the party will be interesting, lively and in good taste.)
By the same token, you have a life that is not centered on your children. You may have a career or volunteer work that is meaningful to you. You have friends, you read books.
You love creativity – even if that means covering the kitchen table in glue and glitter to make Christmas ornaments.
You know that perfection is highly overrated.
You know that your job is to give your child as little to talk about in therapy as humanly possible.
Anyone have any other ideas?
And hey – you may be an aspiring Maverick Mom and that is okay, too. We’ll all figure out how to stand apart from the sheep together, okay?